The dating scene...

I know....I'm over the hill when it comes to dating but I can still imagine there might be that perfect someone out there. 10 years ago I tried the AOL Singles site. It was pretty straightforward. Many new sites have appeared since then, some of them AOL-related. eHarmony is probably the one you would think would hold the most weight when it comes to 'screening people'. After filling out pages of who I am and what I'm looking for (yeah, that helped) I decided to try one of my 'perfect matches'. Young women out there, realize that when you're over the age of 50-something and trying to find Mr. Right (again), Mr. Right suddenly seems mighty old and may appear to have been ridden hard and put away wet (this is a horse-person saying by the way) and if he doesn't appear that way, he's likely dating someone in her 30s. So what does that leave me, but choices of the following: married and looking for a fling; looking for 'young things'; retired and too tired to enjoy life. Not a great group of choices. So back to the one I tried....he was better looking than his picture, which is really unusual; was extremely charismatic; acted like he was really into me. We had sushi, a great dinner, lots of wine....and well, you know the rest. Though I thought it odd that he had to leave quickly at 10 p.m., I fully expected a phone call the following day asking me to go for a drive, get lunch, have dinner at his place....SOMETHING!! I emailed him a few days later saying something like 'so...what's up?' to which he didn't reply. That was it. I gave up. I'm not about to chase anyone. He was either an extremely good actor, gay, or married. At first I was devastated to think someone would play with anyone's feelings like that, but then reality raised its ugly head and I was over it. His profile is still online. He's still out there.

I have come to the conclusion that there is really no reason to upset my life by engaging in a relationship. I have a dog. I have all the things that make me love life. Why ruin that by sharing it with someone with different ideals. Truly, no matter how compatible 2 people are, there are always things that cause turmoil. I have absolutely no turmoil in my life.